And yet, something may be missing. Where's the quality of life?
Maybe it seems to you like something is wrong or unsatisfying and you can't quite put your finger on it. What if it's not what you are doing, but what you are ALLOWING that could be poisoning your quality of life?
The things that we ALLOW can be more insidious; things that are poisonous and can be eating away at our well-being, at our productivity and our sense of contentment. Arthur Schopenhauer, a renowned German philosopher highlights the significance of relationships in the quality of our lives in his quote that: "Almost all of our sorrows spring out of our relations with other people." Some have critiqued this as a pessimistic view, while others take stock in the deep key that can unlock the source of improving the quality of our lives: that it is through the quality of our relationships that we experience an improved quality of life. While relationships may not be where all of our happiness stems, they do in fact determine a great deal of our sense of satisfaction and contentment with life. Toxic relationships poison our lives, nurturing relationships help us feel content and able to see the joy in life. When we feel held by your relationships, we can grow and feel safe to explore ourselves and our world. When we are in the midst of poisonous relationships filled with doubt, uncertainty or a sense of confusion, we are at our most vulnerable.
How is all this going to help improve the quality of your life? Knowing what you are willing to entertain in your life and what you are NOT willing to entertain makes it possible to be the designer of your life's quality. Rather than passively allowing people to determine how you feel about yourself, you become the architect, the overseer of what is and what is not acceptable in your relationships. How you go about instilling new limits on what you consider acceptable and not, is a life skill that you develop through practice. Don't beat yourself up for not always being able to set limits and boundaries, it is a work in progress. Simply stay close to the continued learning and growing process when it comes to setting limits and cutting out toxic behaviours or toxic people with whom you sense there may be no hope of setting limits. This is a major part of improving the quality of your life.
If we are not mindful, toxicity can take root and diminish the quality of your life. What we permit, takes root and grows. Whether it be poison or nourishment, harm or kindness, evil or compassion. What we allow, will take root and grow branches.
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